Hi, I'm Andrea of Dominant Mindset Coaching (some people know me as Megara Furie)
Most of my skeletons are on the internet but in short, I am a Dominatrix and a recovered alcoholic from Glasgow, Scotland.
And I am a self-made, self-diagnosed, self-sufficient Power-Full™ Woman.
But it wasn't always that way...
I was an ambitious, high achieving (and very perfectionist) Woman. A straight-A student at a prestigious University with a wealthy boyfriend and the world at my feet.
Friends would comment on how well I was doing, family would remark on how I never needed to try at anything and I was so 'lucky'.
I would smile and nod but inside I was struggling with not feeling confident, good enough or worthy of what I had.
A feeling of pressure to keep up this facade was growing and I was TERRIFIED of being ‘found out’.
My ex killed himself and my whole world went into free fall.
I dropped out of uni, I lost my career, my happiness, my self-esteem, and almost my mind at one point.
I was so used to holding it together (by a thread), waiting for the day it all omes crashing down that I didn’t know how to fail or be vulnerable because I always saw that as ‘weak’ and I was used to being strong.
To avoid being found out for the failure I felt I was I…
- Bounced from relationship to relationship and job to job and country to country so no one could really get to know me
- Hit the booze and was constantly looking for things outside of myself to fix me (shopping, car, new man, new job, tits, a nose, redecorating my home, going on TV and talking about fisting a dude...)
- Sabotaged anything good before I even got to enjoy it...
The stuff from my past and worrying about what people thought of me kept me up at night and it stopped me from doing the things I love....
The least little thing would trigger me, stop me in my tracks and once stopped, I couldn't get going again...
My friendships and my family relationships were strained and I pushed everyone away…
My worst fears that everyone would leave me came true but not for the reasons I imagined.
I had pushed them, and every opportunity I had, away.
I was so frustrated because knew I had SO much potential yet I was wasting it and keeping myself small and very lonely.
If I didn't let anyone close they couldn't hurt me right?
Oh, and btw, it absolutely f*cking sucked to be me because pity parties were definitely my thing too...
I was fiercely independent though (can’t be weak or let anyone close remember?), so I tried to fix it all on my own ("I don't need you or your help!" was my war cry) but I never seemed to get very far.
I even actually tried therapy 3 times - one guy tried to get me to say I was just ashamed (lmfao) of my job as a Domme, and the other two gave up after 6 sessions saying they didn't know what to do with me...
Oh, and I took anti-depressants and ended up playing "find my car keys" several times a day because my brain was so fogged up I had little short-term memory left...
I also really needed a system that would work, every time, in any situation, that I could do on my own.
I got my sh*t together, discovered who I really was, what I liked to do, what wasn't working for me anymore and what this Woman was made of.
I can proudly say I now have:
- TWO thriving businesses: Megara Furie the Dominatrix and Andrea the Coach.
- A beautifully healed relationship with my dad (We didn't speak for years but now he lives above me and we are best friends)
- A very new fiance who is the absolute Love of my life (yeah, I'm ok being a bit mushy these days)
- Incredible friends who support and cheer for me
- Peace. Real peace where I can put my head on the pillow at night and just sleep
This journey wasn't easy and I made a TONNE of mistakes along the way - hurtful, expensive mistakes I want to help you to avoid so I stripped out all the fluff you don't need and in the 5D Power™ process I will be teaching you exactly how I coach so you can coach yourself.
I don't know what your goals are but I know the cost of not living Your life the way You want and living to Your full potential.
Is that a price you're happy to keep paying?